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The aim of this resource is to empower carers with practical examples and shortcut uses of the tools and foster an atmosphere of collaboration and understanding within their families. By incorporating these methods, carers can support their loved one’s recovery journey in a way that balances compassion, encouragement, and respect for their autonomy.
This particular resource has Broken record style phrases BRPS and ALVS examples for things around Xmas and other occasions for supporting a loved one and dealing with the well-meaning sometimes off base comments and interactions with family members and friends who have limited knowledge of EDs.
Broken Record Phrases (BRPs): Repeatable, calm, validating responses.
EFFT "Three Becauses": Deeper validation structure.
Motivational Interviewing Tools:
O.A.R.S.: Open questions, affirmations, reflections, summaries
D.E.A.R.S.: Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Self-care
A.L.V.S.: Attend, Label, Validate, Soothe
Christmas Dinner Survival – BRPs for anticipatory anxiety, overwhelm, and food focus.
Navigating Relatives’ Comments – Scripts to defuse diet talk, shaming, or minimising.
Food-Based Social Pressure – Support for boundary-setting and self-advocacy.
Managing Anxiety at Events – Practical and emotional regulation strategies.
Support During a Difficult Moment – In-the-moment calming phrases.
Aftermath of Triggering Events – Validating emotional fall-out and finding stability.
Scripts to manage unsolicited advice, judgmental comments, or boundary-crossing from relatives.
ALVS applied to criticism scenarios, including:
“You’re too soft”
“You just need to make them eat”
“You’re enabling them”
“This is ridiculous, just tell them what to do”
The aim of this resource is to empower carers with practical examples and shortcut uses of the tools and foster an atmosphere of collaboration and understanding within their families. By incorporating these methods, carers can support their loved one’s recovery journey in a way that balances compassion, encouragement, and respect for their autonomy.
This particular resource has Broken record style phrases BRPS and ALVS examples for things around Xmas and other occasions for supporting a loved one and dealing with the well-meaning sometimes off base comments and interactions with family members and friends who have limited knowledge of EDs.
Broken Record Phrases (BRPs): Repeatable, calm, validating responses.
EFFT "Three Becauses": Deeper validation structure.
Motivational Interviewing Tools:
O.A.R.S.: Open questions, affirmations, reflections, summaries
D.E.A.R.S.: Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Self-care
A.L.V.S.: Attend, Label, Validate, Soothe
Christmas Dinner Survival – BRPs for anticipatory anxiety, overwhelm, and food focus.
Navigating Relatives’ Comments – Scripts to defuse diet talk, shaming, or minimising.
Food-Based Social Pressure – Support for boundary-setting and self-advocacy.
Managing Anxiety at Events – Practical and emotional regulation strategies.
Support During a Difficult Moment – In-the-moment calming phrases.
Aftermath of Triggering Events – Validating emotional fall-out and finding stability.
Scripts to manage unsolicited advice, judgmental comments, or boundary-crossing from relatives.
ALVS applied to criticism scenarios, including:
“You’re too soft”
“You just need to make them eat”
“You’re enabling them”
“This is ridiculous, just tell them what to do”